Last week I clicked on a shared link on one of my social media sites and discovered this amazing blog entry from a fellow blogger: When Rejection Steals the Best of Who I Am by Lysa TerKeurst.
It was an incredible reminder that I need to read often. I am guilty of this in so any ways. I am a thinker, an over thinker actually so I dissect situations and then dissect the pieces which at times can cause a big ol’ mess in my head.
If you know me, you know I am sensitive. I don’t like to be disliked & when I feel I am it hurts me much more than it should. I want to know why & that wondering causes me to create a different truth which is where this woman’s story fit so perfectly into my life and my personality. Here are the bullet points and a link to her blog. Take a moment to read and absorb it. 1. When I’m tired or stressed, I’m likely to interpret interactions way more emotionally than I should. Therefore, I should wait to respond to others until I’ve had a chance to rest and de-stress. A depleted girl can quickly become a defeated girl when she lets emotions dictate her reactions.
2. Believe the best before assuming the worst. Even if they didn’t have my best interest in mind, they probably didn’t have the worst intentions either. Regardless, being positive will keep me in a much better place.
3. Clarify. Clarify. Clarify. When in doubt, I should ask them to help me understand what they truly meant. And when I clarify, I must recognize and resist adding any additional commentary my past hurt has added to this situation.
Can you think of a time in your life where these perspectives might help? I certainly haven’t perfected making these perspectives the first thing I think of when I’m in an uncertain situation. But at least I do think of them. And that’s great progress, so feelings from yesterday’s rejections don’t take away from today’s relationships.
“Lysa, just make sure you aren’t holding her accountable for words she never said. She didn’t say you weren’t wanted. She didn’t say you weren’t capable. She didn’t say others were thinking the same way as her. She simply said they didn’t need you there.”